Inaugural Blog

May 12, 2006

This is Pawan posting. This is the first post to the Life with Talvin blog. I conceived of this blog as a way for me, Charu, and anyone else to post their thoughts, ruminations, whimsical ideas, etc. regarding Talvin. We had talked about keeping a journal, but it's inconvenient to find it every time you want to write something and typing is fast. Also, I imagine this as a communal site, where anyone who has access to the username and password can post what they like regarding Talvin, or can comment on others' posts, or just read.  First let me give a public thanks to Will Morris Uncle, who set up the blog for us. I didn't want a blog that could be accessed via google (e.g. if anyone searched for Talvin Singh or for Charu or myself). According to WordPress, this should remain private, but they may change their policies in the future, so it's important to keep that in mind when posting. 

 Ok, enough with the preface. Talvin was born 4/25/06 at 4:31am. It was a Tuesday, about two and a half weeks ago. [Right now he is crying, after waking up from an hour's nap during which his parents and his Nani (Charu's mom, Pratibha Gupta) ate dinner (courtesy of Nani). He's crying even louder now as Charu changes his diaper. Soon he'll be very content as his mother nurses him. ] Charu did a natural delivery, which means no medication whatsoever. Whenever women, in particular mothers, hear this, their eyes and mouths pop open in awe. It was an awe-some site and experience to be part of. It drained both of us, for I have to say that I was a very involved participant throughout the labor and delivery. At the time of delivery, seeing the crown of his head come up and then go back down, and then finally come out was the most remarkable thing I have ever seen. You didn't know what was coming out until the whole head appeared. Then you realized that it was the top of the head that was first appearing, covered with tiny hairs. Then the whole body wiggled out. [I'll skip over other details since they are relatively unremarkable, except to say that nurses had to suction out fluid from his lungs to get him to start crying. That took about an hour and a half.] He was born 6 lbs, 8 ozs, and was 19inches. He is gaining about an ounce a day after the first week, and so is very healthy. He has large feet, and so everyone expects him to be tall. 

 The doctor said, "it's a boy." We had chosen not to know the sex until the baby's birth, but we can't say that we were too surprised since everyone told Charu while pregnant that since she was carrying a child up front, it was likely a boy. Knowing that it was a boy gives both excitement and fear. As the "father" I feel a somewhat stronger role in guiding him through adolescence than I might if we had a girl. The sense of anxiety from parental responsibility is only outweighed by the excitement of helping him grow. It's impossible to get bored of this child, even though he does practically nothing. Doesn't talk, crawl, give off signs (except for crying), or signify any emotion beyond discomfort that can stem from hunger, being dirty, being gassy, possibly wanting to be held, or worrying about illegal wiretapping by the Bush administration.  

 Charu is doing well and can elaborate on her own emotional, mental, and physical state. Albeit to say that her mom, Talvin's Nani, is a huge reason why we can have relatively calm existence now. She's great with Talvin as well as with us. His other grandparents visited the weekend of May 5th. It was great to have the "old folks" and young one together. My mom brought an afghan that she hand made, with purple flowers, green leaves, and white background. It is beautiful and used often. (We just came back from a stroll in the rain to our neighbors, and the afghan kept Talvin warm and sleep). Talvin's grandfather jumped at every chance to hold him. They check in often about his growth, checkups, etc. Speaking of checkups, he's gained a healthy amount of weight in his past two-plus weeks. At two weeks he was 7lbs, 2ozs. He's gaining an ounce a day since his first week birthday, which is great.

 One last point for now: I wanted to name a boy Talvin after the Indian British DJ, Talvin Singh. I have liked his music but more I like what he represents, a fusion of Eastern/Indian and Western music (i.e. cultural) styles. He was one of the first British DJs to do this and push against seeing groups in static, essentialist ways. Both aesthetically and politically it's exciting.


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