Reflections on Talvin

May 30, 2006

I've met the little man in person, and let me assure you that Talvin is more beautiful than his photos.  His Taiji and Ronak bhaiya and I spent a wonderful weekend with Talvin and his two hand servants, Charu and Pawan.  Even while asleep, he captures the room.  You can't help but smile when you gaze at him.  Given his sleeping during the day, feeding, and being changed often, there were too few precious moments to play with him.  But what great company he was – attentive to new toys, a sweet, innocent look, and never fussy.  I encourage anyone who hasn't had the priviledge to pay him a visit….

Koshi and I forgot how small and cute babies were.  Charu remarked that she had a tough time believing Talvin would one day be as old as Ronak.  The converse was true for us – we can't believe our children were ever so small and new to the world.  On the flight to Cleveland I told Ronak he had to be gentle with Baby Talvin, just like when he petted the bunny rabbit.  He took the words to heart and was very sweet with Talvin – touching him gently and with a big smile.  He enjoyed pushing Talvin in the stroller and looking at him in his play pen.  Even today Ronak brought me his blue teddy bear and announced it was Baby Talvin.  Talvin obviously made a great impression.

Charu and Pawan were great.  Despite lack of sleep and the usual stress of being first-time parents, they were great hosts and hilarious company as usual.  They managed to prepare a great outdoor grilled dinner and delicious pasta brunch.  Pawan even biked to neighbors' homes to fetch videos for Ronak and to borrow a ladder so he could climb to the roof to retrieve Ronak's toy airplane (a gift from Talvin.)  Again, I encourage everyone to visit….

We miss you, Talvin, and look forward to seeing you at your Masi's wedding in July! Be careful or you'll steal the show. 

Love,

Arun Tauji

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1 Month Old

May 26, 2006

Talvin is one month old today. It's hard to tell if it feels that the time has gone quickly or slowly, but one thing for sure is that it's impossible to imagine life w/out him. He is 21 inches tall today (2 inches more than his birthday), and weighs 8 lbs, 13ozs (which is almost 2 1/2 lbs more than his birthday). He is awake much more during the day and focuses on objects more intently, especially sharp contrasts of colors. He cries more now for no apparent reason, but is able to be solaced with enough cajoling. The pediatrician, whom we saw today, said he is doing well. We were listening to some Bob Dylan recently (see previous post), and later I was holding Talvin. It was amazing to think that at some point, Bob Dylan was a tiny baby, one month old that someone was holding. I don't expect Talvin to be the next Dylan, but it was a cool thought.

His tauji, taiji, and bhaiya (i.e. his uncle Arun, aunt Koshi, and cousin Ronak) visited last weekend, and Koshi remarked that in the short time that they were here, she noticed a difference in how long he was awake and alert. Since he is awake more, he spends more time in various motorized chairs, being entertained by mobiles and fuzzy objects, being read to, and of course eating. Thanks to his taiji for sorting through various toys.  It was fun to have family visit and enjoy everyone's company.

Finally, Talvin enjoyed his first movie theater last night. He took us to see Mission Impossible 3 at the local theater, which fortunately is too old to have dolby surround sound and only shows one movie. He slept through the first half and ate through the last half. All in all, it was a successful outing. While it's nice to get out with him, playing with him in the living room while he's awake and with his mother is the most fun. He reacts to rattles, our singing (which sounds like torture to others), and general smiles more and more. It's been a really nice first month.

Pawan

Talvin continues to amaze us. This evening he picked up the guitar and wrote a song. After listening to some Bob Dylan, he penned the following lyrics, to be sung along as "The Times They Are a-Changin'" He hopes you enjoy.

Pawan

Talvin Needs a-Changin'

Come gather 'round parents
Wherever you roam
And admit that the waters
In my diapers have grown
And accept it that soon
You'll be drenched to the bone.
If your clothes to you
Is worth savin'
Then you better stop me from swimmin'
Or you'll sink like a stone
For Talvin needs a-changin'.

Come writers and professors
Who prophesize with your pen
And put your computers down
The poop may come again
And don't speak too soon
For the stomach's still in spin
And there's no tellin' what
That it's namin'.
For the clean diaper now
Will be later stain’in
For Talvin needs a-changin'.

Come aunts, uncles
Please heed the call
Don't talk to your friend
Don't go to the mall
For he that gets hurt
Will be he who has stalled
There's a battle inside
And it is ragin'.
It'll soon shake your windows
And rattle your walls
For Talvin needs a-changin'.

Come mothers and fathers
Throughout the land
And don't criticize
What you can't understand
Your son’s bowel movements
Are beyond your command
Your old diaper is
Rapidly agin'.
Please get out a new one
And please lend your hand
For Talvin needs a-changin'.

The line it is drawn
The wipee it is cast
The breast-milk now
Will later be gas
As the present now
Will later be past
The order is
Rapidly fadin'.
And the first one now
Will later be last
For Talvin needs a-changin'

The Interview

May 21, 2006

I'm happy to report that Charu's press credentials were able to get me, Pawan, a few minutes with a very busy person, to discuss Talvin. The following is an interview with no other than Ronak Dhingra. He is age 4, eldest son of Arun and Koshi Dhingra, and is Talvin's cousin. He escorted his parents here over the weekend of May 19th. His insights offer a needed, nuanced perspective on Talvin that only Ronak can offer. We thank him for his time.

What did you do today with Talvin?
           I touched his toes.

Were his toes big or small?

          Small. And I touched his hands.

Were his hands big or small?

          Big! No, they were small.

What else did you touch?

          I touched his nose.

Was that fun?
          Yay.
Are you visiting him in Texas?
          No. I'm in Cleveland. In Ohio.

How did you come to visit Talvin?
           I flew to Cleveland. I drove in the Volkswagen to Cleveland. I got out faster. I ran in. And I saw Chachi. Now we are in Ohio.

What is Talvin doing now?
           I'll go check. He's drinking his milk.

What is Talvin wearing?

           I'll go check. White pajamas.

What else did do you with Talvin?

           I played with his car puzzle.

Was it your puzzle before?
           Yes.

Are you glad that he has your toys?
           Yes.

Will you come back and visit Talvin?

            Yes. Tomorrow you'll have a big Talvin.

Photos and Video

May 19, 2006

Hello Everyone.

 I'm excited to say that we have a multi-media blog going on now. This should work. If you want to see a sample of photos and videos, go to http://www.oberlin.edu/faculty/pdhingra/

The photos are in jpeg format and have been reduced in size so as to be downloaded quickly.

The videos are in quicktime. they take a bit longer to download. they are the ones that end in .mov

Just click on the links.

Best,

Pawan

Counting the days….

May 17, 2006

…until we meet Talvin, that is.  I'm in Portland but still find time to smile at Talvin's photos.  What a looker.  Most people don't look good in hats, but he makes it work.  All the attention and focus on Pawan and Charu that ensued when they were a newly married couple has now shifted entirely, and I bet they wouldn't want it any other way.  Voice and data lines across the globe are streaming Talvin.  He is being showered with love from all directions.  And as one would expect from a true master of the universe, Talvin remains aloof to it all.  Content just to shower his parents with urine.

Talvin, I never foresaw the strength of the bond I felt with my own children immediately following their births.  And I never expected to feel that same bond with you, as I have not even had the priviledge of holding your hand or cradling you in my arms.  But the bond is there, and your Koshi Aunty, big brother Ronak and I can't wait to meet you in person.  You can save the showering for your parents, though.

Are you enjoying your baths yet? Or do you still cry? Have you cracked a smile yet? Are you way into the trendy colors, black & white? So much to learn when we see you for the first time, this coming Friday, May 19th.  Remember,we're family, so you can forgo the formalities.  Take off the hat.  No diaper required.  Be yourself, now and always. 

With love,

Arun Uncle

Approaching 3 weeks.

May 16, 2006

 It's great to read people's posts. Hope they keep coming.

  Talvin had some 'tummy-time' today and enjoyed it immensely. Him holding his neck up for three second straight should qualify as an Olympic event in my opinion. This coincided with some nude time, which ended in three cloth diapers being put in the wash within 10 minutes. What a guy. Puja Aunty called on Sunday (great to hear her voice), and I told her how watching his arms move while sleeping feels like a noteworthy event. Otherwise he doesn't do much, but still manages to be cute. The only time he isn't cute is when he's peeing on us while putting on a diaper, which results in changing his (and often our) clothes. This happens more often than I would have imagined. What a guy. 

 Yesterday was mother's day. Talvin gave his mom and nani some gifts but otherwise slept through it – the prodigal son. Nani left yesterday afternoon and Talvin is missing her. The next time he hiccups (which is often), it will mean that he's thinking of her. 

 We have noticed a clear difference in his ability to focus his eyes on objects. He looks more intently and for longer periods of time. He doesn't look long – less than 10 seconds before he changes his focus – but it is longer. 

 That's it for now. He's sleeping in his mother's lap after being fed.  

Pawan